Thursday, May 26, 2011

Learn to Lose

We all clamour for winning. Especially over others. But there is a pleasure in losing too.  One will experience that pleasure only through personal experience. We all would have lost in a game or race to our children to see happiness in their face. But  we never wish to lose for fellow adults say spouse or friend. Initially it seem difficult to accept the concept and practice.  People may even brand you a fool if you lose when you can win otherwise. Even the person for who you are losing also may not appreciate.  Rest assured. Over time, you will be happy with your decision. Losing for others does not mean losing everything every time as per some time table.

Recently, in Mr.Perfect, a telugu movie starring Prabhas, this concept is introduced and highlighted as the ultimate winner. The heroin wanted to join the game of cricket and bowl at a crucial time that can ruin the game and the hero did not want to allow her to ensure a win for his team. Hero's father pressurises him and demonstrates to him by holding water in his palm with all fingers together. He explains that by being together with friends (symbolised by fingers) you stand to hold much water and by spreading the fingers (being individualistic) you can hardly hold any water.  Hero resented and took a decision never to compromise in life and led such life till the end when he realises the value of his father's words at the end as the heroin demonstrates what is love which is nothing but losing.

My professor used to say the same thing in a different way.  He used to say that to gain something you should lose something and when we expect others to do something  for us we should do something.  Initiative should ours.
What an advice sirji
with love